11 Apr


For at least two generations we have been told that the old gender roles were obsolete. And we concluded that gender neutrality was the new norm. Truth be told those old gender roles probably are well and truly out of touch and out of date. But we are still trying to discover what the new roles are; they probably have a lot to do with all of us being more individual, which means there will be few if any common threads between people of the same gender. That being said, if we approach marital relationships in a gender neutral way, if we approach relationships as best friends rather than marital partners, we end up with a roommate rather than a lover. There is a masculine/feminine difference, even if the best philosophers and neuroscientists in the works have never been able to adequately put this distinction into words. And if we lose that difference we lose the masculine/feminine tension and attraction, which is the whole reason why we were attracted to the relationship in the first place. Political correctness is adherence to someone else’s ideas, whether it is traditional gender roles or modern misconceptions that confuse equality with neutrality. We will have to figure out the truth of these differences over the course of living out lives, even if it means our generation will have to suffer some frustration in the process. About the only thing we are certain about at the moment is that the other people are always different to ourselves, which is something we should feel comfortable in accepting.